The past two days Ive done my share of crying and getting upset. i know that i shouldn't take things personally but i do.
Today i was talking to the nurse and i had asked "when they take out the RA lone will i be able to hold her?"
she answered :" yes but you have to be VERY CAREFUL" seriously lady .... like i am going to throw her around or something... i am not an idiot . i get it she has to tell me but really its my baby.
i hate that i cant hold her yet. that fucking line has no use they said that they would remove it as soon as she was off all of her drips and that was two days ago. i get that there are other babies but its like sense we moved to the POD that they just leave her there all day and do nothing.
I'm also having issues with sharing. i haven't even got to hold her and have a chance to get to know her a little bit and i have to share her with everyone and i appreciate the advice from people but i hate when people are telling me how i have to take care of her or that i NEED to do something or not do something... i haven't even got a chance to try it out to be a mom yet. i don't want anyone to tell me how to do something i will ask if i need help.
I have a flood of emotions on top of a fucking headache that wont go away. a belly ache that makes me want to rip out my guy every time i eat... and i just want to go home. i want to take my baby home and i want to do the mom thing i want to change a mess of dirty diapers... i want to feel so sleep deprived id give anything for my bed but instead go stand by her bed. i want to be able to properly breast feed my baby.
I hate not being able to cook in my own kitchen and feeling like i am home... i've been drifting around for to long i just want to be settled ... but in the back of my head i know that this wont be for a while... i hate knowing that poor Olivia will have to come back for another surgery.
Olivia is doing great for the most part her swallowing and sucking isn't the greatest but they are going to work on it. today she got to try a bottle it didn't go great but she did try and got 2mls down. they said early tomorrow morning they will be taking the RA line out so we will see how that goes. hopefully they do. 3 chest tubes are still in but hopefully this weekend we get at least one out. they are also talking about moving us to the third floor ... thats like having one foot out the door... i just hope that there are no set backs and that sweet Olivia does get the eating thing down.